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My Space on Dateline Last Night
Feb 5th, 2006 at 8:31am
 
Did anyone watch Dateline NBC last night?
It was about the problem of adults soliciting kids on the Internet .  Which led to a conversation about myspace.  That's where most of these predators were soliciting the kids. 
My news programs continued the contraversy.  It must be scary bringing up teenagers now!
Read these:
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/3032600/
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11103248/
http://www.wkyc.com/news/news_article.aspx?storyid=47201
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Reply #1 - Feb 10th, 2006 at 2:40am
 
Solodka,

I can tell you from first hand experience that part of the problem stems from the kids using
"provocative" screen names... It is amazing how many students will put on their college applications their
email address and it's something like "2hot2handle@yahoo.com" or "juicygirl@yahoo.com" or "hotbabe@hotmail.com" or something else suggestive or provocative.  Usually, as a university, we will contact the kid and ask for a more professional and appropriate email address, vs. some of these crazy ones...  Given the sexy screennames, it's not too suprising that there are people who prey on these kids...

Part of the problem is that parents don't monitor what their kids are doing either-- lots of kids are posting personal info on themselves online that should not be posted...  Too many parents are letting the internet babysit their kids, vs. making sure that they are participating in age-appropriate activities online.  Parents constantly tell kids not to talk to strangers in real life, but little is done in the way of protecting them from bad strangers online.
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Reply #2 - Feb 11th, 2006 at 9:50am
 
imo, the internet should not be accessible to anyone under 18.  period.
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Reply #3 - Feb 11th, 2006 at 11:04am
 
bookies_original wrote on Feb 11th, 2006 at 9:50am:
imo, the internet should not be accessible to anyone under 18.  period.


I'm not sure I'd go that far. Parents really need to take responsibility for monitoring their children's
activities online as well....

There are lots of valuable and educational websites around that are helpful in teaching children
about the world around them. Where it goes astray is when the parents don't pay attention and the children wander
into other areas that are not age-appropriate. 

If a parent was in a video store, most wouldn't allow their 10 year old
or even a 16 year old into the XXX rated section of the video store,
because it is socially considered not age-appropriate.
However, many parents don't even know what their kids are doing online....
They don't take the time to find out.

The other problem has to do with email-- even if the kids are not on an explicit website,
they do not realize how much trouble they can get for sending the wrong person the wrong emails...
Whether it means that they could potentially "harm" someone else (via a threat) or if
they've been giving their own personal information out to strangers who could hurt them....

Recently, a high school kid sent a very nasty email to an admissions counselor at
a university without regard to the fact that he could be PROSECUTED for sending the note.
Undoubtedly, the kid probably thought it was "funny" and hit "send" on his
computer, without thinking that 1) he was doing it from school property,
2) he was sending to to a state university, and 3) the note could be construed as a threat.
Now, he may possibly be criminally prosecuted for internet "stalking" or "intimidation".
What remains to be seen is whether or not his parents choose to make him take responsibility
for his actions, or whether they try to get him "off the hook"...

Besides, if we didn't allow people under 18 to go online, how would Andrew (on here) have found
the Romantics Website? Smiley  We wouldn't have been able to INFLUENCE him with our
love of The Romantics! Smiley
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Reply #4 - Feb 13th, 2006 at 7:30pm
 
Bravo, Iris.  I let my 6-year-old on the internet all the time.  He loves to look up stuff like websites that show pictures of giant fish caught, flags of the world, maps, how to build a birdhouse, pictures of aircraft, etc.

But I make sure that he is supervised, and he has parental controls set on his login.

Not letting your kid on the internet is like not letting your kid go to the library, watch tv, read books, or read the newspaper.
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Reply #5 - Feb 14th, 2006 at 7:58am
 
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There are lots of valuable and educational websites around that are helpful in teaching children
about the world around them. Where it goes astray is when the parents don't pay attention and the children wander
into other areas that are not age-appropriate.


the problem is there are just too many parents who do not pay attention to what their children are doing on the internet.  sure its easy to monitor them while they are still very young but into the teen years, it gets much harder.
in fact, i was at a public library looking something up and to my horror, i put in a search for some legal topic and was directed to some porn site.  this at a public library!!!  i never had the internet growing up and i do not feel as though my learning was impaired in the least.   why then do they ban the sale of cigarettes to anyone under the age of 18?  the same argument could be made there about parents not monitoring their children.
i believe more bad than good has come from the www.
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Reply #6 - Feb 15th, 2006 at 10:16am
 

Not having any children, it's not my place to comment here, but I will say that it's always something!  Back in the day.....parents were shocked to find out their kids had Playboy, Penthouse, Juggs, etc.  (I'm sure the list goes on and that their are many that I am not aware of!)  Smoking, drinking, internet porn, it's all the same principle.  It just seems to get worse as time goes on.  I do think that you should have parental controls on your computer.  But take a look at not only the names, but the photos that some of this kids are putting up.
I just did a show and some of the girls that I worked with are very, very young!  They were actually proud of the fact that their photos were being used with captions like "Wasted" under their picture.  French kissing their friends, both girls, etc.  Then there is some website called drunkcalls.com  also.  They are all quite proud of their accomplishment getting their photos and messages on these sites and even on the local news!  Something the parents must be really proud of! 
My father would have killed me~  But then again, I would have known better.  So, does it all come down with parents have no control over their kids and have not been good parents?  Something to think about!
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Reply #7 - Feb 17th, 2006 at 10:12am
 
I think a lot of you hit it on the head with the problem lies with the parents. We got a computer in my house with internet when I was 8ish and still to this day it sits in a nice cabinet in the middle of the living room... angled just right so anyone in the kitchen/living room can see it. It wasn't until just last year until my mom let us hook the upstair computer(which was in my brother's and I's room) up to the net. My bestfriend on the other hand, whos family was very into computers, had a internet-ready computer in his bedroom at age 10, and the family computer wasn't in plain view. Parents shouldn't allow kids to sign up for stuff.

I was designing website by age 14  and I always knew better than to give out personal info... sites like MySpace and AIM 'require' someone to be 13 to sign up(its a law actually...) and by 13/14 I think most kids should know better than to give out personal info, if they don't know better well then schools/parents aren't doing something right!

But I do think some fault is with the kids too... like someone said about email/screennames, or sending emailings with threats and not realizing it. I'm sorry but by 14 most kids should know not to give out private info. If someone goes into high school and doesn't know that its bad to give out phone numbers on the internet then they shouldn't be allowed in high school!

There are many good parental controling programs... my parents had one for the longest time. Anytime anyu sexual word or swear word was mentioned in an email, on a website, in a IM chat window it woudl close out of that window and create a log the parents could view. Perhaps the problem isn't putting an age on the internet and banning everyone younger, but rather make parental control programs more of a staple with computer when they are bought.

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Reply #8 - Feb 18th, 2006 at 8:12am
 
Andrew wrote on Feb 17th, 2006 at 10:12am:
I think a lot of you hit it on the head with the problem lies with the parents.
There are many good parental controling programs... my parents had one for the longest time. Anytime anyu sexual word or swear word was mentioned in an email, on a website, in a IM chat window it woudl close out of that window and create a log the parents could view. Perhaps the problem isn't putting an age on the internet and banning everyone younger, but rather make parental control programs more of a staple with computer when they are bought.



Interesting!  I never knew that even existed!  Maybe you can share how that is done!
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Reply #9 - Feb 18th, 2006 at 9:55am
 
solodka wrote on Feb 18th, 2006 at 8:12am:
Interesting!  I never knew that even existed!  Maybe you can share how that is done!


Its a program that my parents bought. It has a database of words that trigger a computer script to run that exits out of the program instantly and takes a screenshot... so the parents can see what their kids were looking at when they review the problem.
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Reply #10 - Feb 18th, 2006 at 10:02am
 
Hey Andrew,
What is the program called?
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Reply #11 - Feb 19th, 2006 at 4:12am
 
Very interesting Andrew.

However, what happens when people use other ways to write out bad words?
i.e. using numbers instead of letters, etc?

Such as:

1 l0\/3 +h3 R()m@n+1c$

I've seen people call others @$$h013$ as well... :-P
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Reply #12 - Feb 19th, 2006 at 7:21am
 
That takes too much time to think about! Huh
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Reply #13 - Feb 19th, 2006 at 8:25am
 
But see just because say I type out words like that... websites don't type stuff out like that, nor would every single person who talked to me. So yeah it may not catch everything, but it catches most of the stuff since not everything on the internet, every email, every IM, etc. is written like that.
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Reply #14 - Feb 19th, 2006 at 8:33am
 
Andrew, what was the name of that software?
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Reply #15 - Feb 19th, 2006 at 10:38am
 
I'll find out soon... I just a different state away from my house so its difficult to get info on the fly.
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Reply #16 - Feb 19th, 2006 at 6:24pm
 
Gotcha!  Thanks!   Smiley
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Reply #17 - Feb 19th, 2006 at 9:51pm
 
i still say that just because there are irresponsible parents, children should not have to be subjected to what is on the internet.
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Reply #18 - Feb 20th, 2006 at 5:40am
 
Then, I guess most children would have to be locked in a box because they shouldn't be able to watch most of the TV shows or go to the library to view questionable material either...

Our problem is that too many parents want others to raise their children.  It IS the PARENT'S responsibility.   They need to step up to the plate if they have a problem with what their kids are viewing.  Too many parents won't shoulder the blame for their own lack of responsibility. Why should a responsible parent and their children have to suffer from censorship because someone else won't take the time to monitor their children?

Andrew....
I disagree about websites and emails writing out stuff like that...day after day, I get an email box full of crap from places trying to sell me stuff like Viagra, stocks, mortgages, porno stuff, etc... It's really annoying.  I have a junk email filter, but the companies just add spaces or misspell things on purpose to get around it.  I really can't do much about it except adding the email address to my spam list... even that doesn't work, since most of those companies just re-send out the emails from a different email address....

Your parents at least took the time to try to keep some of the inappropriate information away.  They should be commended also in their awareness that as you and your sibling showed responsible behavior, they also showed you their trust in you as well (by allowing you to have access to a computer in your rooms)...Sadly, most parents are not that way. Obviously, you must have demonstrated that you were capable of being a responsible person as well.
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Reply #19 - Feb 20th, 2006 at 9:03am
 
And let me just add that I know quite a few parents that only let their children watch a few hours of tv each week!
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Reply #20 - Feb 21st, 2006 at 12:06am
 
I was never allowed to get a game system nor did we get cable until a few years back(when I was in 9th gradeish)... my parents didn't want me and my brother sitting in front of the TV all day watching cartoons or playing games. So yes there are parents that regulate tv.

I think to say the internet should be only 18 and over and such is wrong. Not everyone is bad, its just there are headlines out there. I never had problems(heck I was programming websites at age 13!) nor did my brother, or my longtime girlfriend. Right now I have a 10 year old sister - my parents let her surf the internet only when myself or my parents are in the room. They do let her have AIM but they make sure everyone is blocked except her "buddies" and they sit right near her. It works for her. I remember my parents used to not allow me and my brother to be online when they weren't home and since we had dial-up they would call and check to see if the line was busy.

As for people rewritting stuff to get by... yes it happens but from my experience when I was "under" the program any time one of my friends said even the most common swear words it kicked me out. Any time anything said you must be 18/21 and older it kicked me out. I remember trying to get to some website about rock climbing but it wouldn't let me get through because it said "anyone not 18 and over must need a parent present." Yeah the program didn't stop everything, but it really did a pretty darn good job. Just like how you can't block everything bad on TV, I don't think it is possible to block everything, but the program my parents had did about as good of job as possible and allowed them not have to worry about us every second they werent in the same room.  It created a pictoral log so basically if parents saw that a certain child had alot of things in the log they know they could be doing more bad stuff and stop them.
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Reply #21 - Feb 21st, 2006 at 3:44am
 
I think I have said this before, but if not, I certainly thought it!  You are a very old soul Andrew!  Wise beyond your years!  I think you will go very far in life!  Take it wherever you want to go! Wink
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Reply #22 - Feb 21st, 2006 at 7:20am
 
Andrew,

Your parents obviously care about you and your siblings and have raised a responsible young adult! Smiley

My own family was very strict. I wasn't allowed to go to even PG movies until about 17 or 18.  R movies were out of the question.
My parents set boundaries and for the most part, I followed them--Maybe they "scared" it into me-- I don't know, but I
did know that they expected their children to behave properly, as well as to do well in our studies, our music, or whatever  extracurricular activities we were involved in doing. I wasn't even allowed to date (not that it really mattered-- I wouldn't have had time for a boyfriend with all of the extracurricular music activities I was doing-- 1-1/2 to 2 hours of Piano and 1 to 1-1/2 hours of violin practice every day.)  Luckily for me, I met a great guy in college and we've now been together over 20 years....  I think my parents did a pretty good job of raising me and I turned out okay!  (This is not to say that there were some bumps along the way.)

Of course I'm a little older than you, and female, so some of the things you have exposure to were not even available to me as a kid. My younger brother (who will be 30 in a few weeks) had a few more freedoms than I did.  Even so, my parents limited his video game play time as well as TV time. He did not have 500 video games and a Game Boy to distract him--he, too was encouraged to play music (violin & piano) as well as to participate in school athletics.   
None of us were allowed to watch endless hours of TV--my sister (3 yrs younger) and brother (9 yrs younger) and I also did not have cable TV
(partly because a neighbor would not allow the cable to go through their yard, and partly because of expense and it  being a time-waster.)

Now, as an adult I do spend a lot of time online (due to work and other interests), I still do not have Cable TV and only just got DSL in my home in 2003....I also refuse to carry or buy a cell phone (unless it is my work phone.) I live a pretty busy life even without all of these extras-- I don't have much time to watch TV as it is... when do i have time to watch even more channels?

As a kid, my mom had me write out a poem entitled "Children Learn What They Live" Even to this day, it's very faded but still on the wall of my parent's house... and it totally makes sense.   

http://www.joyfulministry.com/learnf.htm

If parents want to raise responsible kids, then they also need to step up to plate and show their kids the path.  As much as the kids may grumble about it, in the long run, that extra discipline and rules will be appreciated...
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Reply #23 - Feb 21st, 2006 at 8:49am
 
I think that for the most part, I too was like you Iris.  Brought up in a very strict environment.  I was an only child.  Not allowed to date or attend the prom!  I had a curfew of midnight from the time I was 18 until 19.  Then 2am until I was 21.  I still believe what can happen after midnight can happen before midnight!  But that's besides the point. 
I feel that even though you are brought up in a strict household, you still have the mind to do the right thing or not.  I lived in a neighborhood where everyone was sneaking out at night.  Doing things they shouldn't be doing.  Smoking cigarettes and other things that they shouldn't have been smoking.  Maybe I was "scared" into not doing it maybe I just thought that it wasn't for me, point being, I listened and learned.  You always have choices.  It's what you do with those choices that makes you who you are.  I watched plenty of TV and played plenty of Nintendo.  As a matter of fact, my parents would make me go out to punish me! I loved violent mob movies, thrillers!  That didn't make me a murderer.    Not that I ever did anything wrong mind you!  I was the perfect child to have.  At least I think so.  I was very strong willed though.  I did need to find certain things out for myself. 
I couldn't live without cable TV.  A cell phone?  I would love to live without one of those!  Mainly because I don't always like to be accessable!  Leave some mystery somewhere!  I just got high-speed internet.  But I love gadgets!
Extra discipline should be taught young.  It stays with you forever!
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Reply #24 - Feb 21st, 2006 at 10:13am
 
I remember when we first got the internet... well like a year after we got this cool internet brower... kinda like a kid friendly version of Internet Explorer. Perhaps a company needs to come out with a program that blocks websites and bad stuff but also make it friendly for kids  - I mean if kids are going to surf the net they should atleast surf it in a kid-friendly form. Perhaps Microsoft/Apple could include a kid-friendly browser on their computers. If the internet won't be faught, companies mind as well create something to imbrace in the right sense for kids. Little things can go a long ways if they are inplanted in kids earlier enough.
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Reply #25 - Feb 21st, 2006 at 5:11pm
 
please keep in mind though that i believe responsible parents are few and far between.  having gone through "growing pains" with two of my own children, i sadly witnessed irresponsible parenting on a daily basis from their friends parents.  also, with the divorce rate nearing 50%, the "ideal" family is no longer a given.
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Reply #26 - Feb 21st, 2006 at 7:36pm
 
Yahoo's got a great setup for kids:

http://yahooligans.yahoo.com/

I've got my kid his own login, (he can't get into mine without my password), and he logs in and goes right to the kids page.  He has tons of places to go from there, and his login is set with parental controls.  It keeps him totally engaged, but won't let him stray into adult areas.  Plus, the computer is set up where everyone can see it.  And he can't use it when we aren't home.  I think it's a great setup, and he learns so much. 

But we do keep a close eye on him anyway.
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Reply #27 - Feb 22nd, 2006 at 12:52pm
 
That's what I'm saying... More parents need to step up to the plate...
As a society, we've gone away from discipline and respect of authority....
Divorce is seen as an easy way out, and far too often the first thing that crosses people's minds
when they hit even a little bump in the world... Too many people give up with out even trying to learn to communicate...

Not to say that my childhood was perfect either, but again, I was taught to respect my parents and other adult figures and to know my boundaries as a child....
I also was fortunate and I did get to attend the prom, but my mom & dad stuck me with my God-brother who was 6 years older than me and a COMPLETE nerd (not that I wasn't a nerd, but even so....)   I was completely mortified when he showed up with a white tux, black shirt and skinny white tie.  Great for a college guy that was into punk styling, but not exactly what I had hoped for, when attending a prom fiilled with black tuxes, colorful cummerbunds and bow ties....
(my high school was pretty "preppy" back in the day.) LOL...

In hind sight, I'm sure he was just as thrilled about going to prom with a bunch of 14-18 year olds... LOL... but he did drive us to Greek Town where we went to a Greek restaurant and tried some Greek food for the first time! He would have even bought us a few drinks if he hadn't left his wallet at home! It was one of the only times I ever got to come home late while in high school (2 a.m.) 

Ah, the innocence of children back then.... :-D

I don't have kids yet, and I sometimes wonder if I even want to have to raise kids in a world filled with so much uncertainty....
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Reply #28 - Feb 22nd, 2006 at 6:28pm
 
Now I can really understand why my father didn't want me to go to prom.  Tradition in Florida high schools is to go out after prom and go to the beach to watch the sunrise!  You wouldn't be home until the next morning!  Obviously, lots of things went on!
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Reply #29 - Feb 23rd, 2006 at 12:45am
 
Actually, I understand that there are many instances of "innocence being lost" on prom night.... even my best friend's boyfriend at the time tried-- although she was firm in her stance. Smiley  (She'll be getting married this coming summer).

My parents would have killed me had I gotten any drinks, although I knew better than to even try.
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Reply #30 - Feb 23rd, 2006 at 12:54am
 
WOW~  She held out for 20 years!  Now that's patience! Smiley
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Same guy?
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Reply #32 - Feb 23rd, 2006 at 4:24am
 
At my prom this past year me and my girlfriend came back to my house afterwards and we made a stepping stone to remember the memory and had dessert. Let me tell it was just as special and just as nice as anything else.  I took her home at 1am(in the nice mustang convertible I rented... what a pain trying to find a convertiblein Michigan in April!). No drinks, no nothing and you know what it was an amazing time.
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Reply #33 - Feb 23rd, 2006 at 4:53am
 
And you remembered it all and didn't wake up with an extreme hangover! Wink
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Reply #34 - Feb 23rd, 2006 at 8:15am
 
i am so glad to hear that andrew!!  i would have been disappointed had you spent it any other way!
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Reply #35 - Feb 23rd, 2006 at 9:22am
 
Hey Andrew, can you be my son?  LOL...  Just kidding... Smiley

Brew: No, it's not the same guy.

Solodka: That's something she keeps private and isn't for me to divulge in either case... Wink
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Reply #36 - Feb 23rd, 2006 at 11:11am
 
solodka wrote on Feb 23rd, 2006 at 4:53am:
And you remembered it all and didn't wake up with an extreme hangover! Wink


Exactly! When you pay so much money for Prom and so much goes into planning and such it would be stupid to waste the night away and forget most of it. But I'm not like that anyways... I live on a sub-free floor here at college. Going back to the parental control  over kids and such... so many parents buy their kids beer from what I here and sometimes see(parents carrying in beer). Whether its right or wrong or you think your kid is old enough to is not the question - helping your child by breaking the law isn't a great influence.


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Reply #37 - Feb 23rd, 2006 at 5:32pm
 
why is parenting the most important "job" anyone can hold and yet we don't have any prerequisites for the position?
i see so much that i would call abuse/neglect that it makes one wonder how some people are allowed to be parents.
a few that i "love" are when parents let their kids ride in cars without using the appropriate restraints.
or when parents are smoking in the car with windows rolled up forcing the poor kid to ingest second hand smoke!
or what about obviously obese parents sending their child down the same path by buying all of the enemy foods.
gosh, we need a license to drive, a permit to own a gun, but yet no background check or "road test" is required to be a parent.
what's wrong with this picture?
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Reply #38 - Feb 23rd, 2006 at 8:10pm
 
Here Here Bookies!  I agree with you!  I have found that unfortunately sometimes, people use children as pawns. For example, more welfare dollars for more children! Sometimes even as a status symbol for more attention! It's very sad!  I think a lot about bringing a child into this world now!  As much as I would like one, it's a hard decision to make!
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Reply #39 - Feb 23rd, 2006 at 9:25pm
 
Actually, the problem exists in all stratas of economic wealth or poverty.

It is just as bad for the rich parent who "enables" their kids to break the law by hiring a rich lawyer to fight a Minor in possession (of whatever substance) as it is for the poor parent who may lack the education or financial resources to teach their children appropriate behavior...

Too many parents are letting the outside world raise their kids vs. owning up to the fact that if their kids are unruly, it's their own fault. They are afraid to instill discipline in their kids for fear of getting sued by some outsider...

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Reply #40 - Feb 23rd, 2006 at 10:13pm
 
Well, we set examples of "getting away" with things all the time.  Look at O.J. and Robert Blake and this list goes on!
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Reply #41 - Feb 24th, 2006 at 4:12am
 
By the way, I cannot say i'm not guilty of doing things I shouldn't have done in my youth-- I did got to my share of keg parties as an undergrad in college... I think it's part of the growing up experience... What I am saying, however, is that my parents cared enough about me and my siblings to set boundaries and let us know what they felt was right or wrong...

Many parents in this day and age are far too lenient towards bad behavior!
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Reply #42 - Feb 24th, 2006 at 7:53am
 
OK, not that I am proud of it, but I can honestly say that I NEVER did anything wrong in my youth!  Except for one minor thing!  I covered for one of my friend's mom's of all things!  She had an affair!  We were her cover.  She said that she was going with us to Disney World, but she took a detour and we went alone!  That's not so bad in my book!  But my parent's would have never let me go with just my friend.  I think I was 17 or 18!  Now I need to rebel in my old age!
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Reply #43 - Feb 25th, 2006 at 11:22am
 
solodka wrote on Feb 24th, 2006 at 7:53am:
OK, not that I am proud of it, but I can honestly say that I NEVER did anything wrong in my youth!  Except for one minor thing!  I covered for one of my friend's mom's of all things!  She had an affair!  We were her cover.  She said that she was going with us to Disney World, but she took a detour and we went alone!  That's not so bad in my book!  But my parent's would have never let me go with just my friend.  I think I was 17 or 18!  Now I need to rebel in my old age!


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